Hey guys! Have you ever been heartbroken to the point where you let the heartbreak control your life?
Well I think my toastmaster speech might be relevant to your situation. Check it out !
Thank you Toastmaster of the Day for the very interesting opening. Hello and good evening my fellow toastmaster. My name is Kezya and I will tell you an opening background first.
As soon as I signed up to speak in this chapter meeting, I did brain storming every day to come up with the most relevant topics, for me to speak about, that could give you some valuable takeaways. There is one topic I steer clear of. One. Probably because deep down, I know that I should be the one who sits there (pointing at the audience) and listens. But well.. here I am, presenting you with The Art of Letting Go.
Have you ever hold on into something or someone because you fear that it is so great, and it won’t happen twice? I have too. Let me share with you my story.
I had this boyfriend. Well, ex-boyfriend. It was 2 years until we broke up last month.
Now you know why I said I should be the one who sit there and listen right? (haha)
My time in high school was not as good as everyone else’s. More about myself, I am an ambitious person. I can work with people, but I definitely enjoy handling things alone. Simple example that I can give you is that, every girl in my school back in my hometown, never go to bathroom by themselves, she will go with her “so-called-gang” and they will wait for that ONE person, in front of the cubicle.
Well.. I can proudly tell you that, I went to bathroom alone.
Then I reached one point in life where I was so sad, so depressed that no one care about my existence, that was when my ex-boyfriend came into my life.
Now, you see why I loved him so much.
He was my home. But the thing is, our vision and mission was never aligned. He wanted a lot of time together, and being in a long distance makes it ten times harder.
In order to satisfy that, during my year one, I was not socializing enough. I went to the lecture, went home and called him. That was my day-to-day life. Even when he asked me to come back during summer or even when he told me NOT to do internship because he wanted us to have more time together. I agreed.
I felt trapped. But yes.. I was so scared. So so scared that this relationship was so great. That it was already a blessing that he even came to my life and ..
I was afraid of letting him go.
I was frightened by my imagination that I might not able to get another chance of being loved. I told myself I am not worthy of this feeling called 'love', and this person right here right now, able to love me, was indeed a great blessing.
A bit of mind-blowing turn up, he broke up with me, said that we could be best friend, only for me to find out a week later that there was another person.
Everything happened so fast, and it was so hard. But it’s funny actually, why .. why am I the one who felt trapped but ended up getting left behind. Right?
So now I left with no other choice than to let go.
It was NOT easy at all. I had tons of doubts. I doubts my happiness, my future. Will I be able to find someone better or even anyone? Will there be someone who love me for who I am, or whether I deserve to be happy.
When you are in the stage of grief, negative things will just stroke into your head like crazy. Yes it'll get into your head, hurt you, leave a scar, whatever.
But here I am.. telling you that it is OKAY. It is okay not to be okay.
It's okay to cry as loud as you can.
However, after that, please get up. Please smile and remember, you are beautiful. You are stronger than you know and
You are going to let
this go.
Letting go is so much more than moving on.
Letting go means creating your own place in the world, leaving the place that
doesn’t appreciate you. Letting go means finding out who you are. It means accepting
things you can’t change and doing something about things you can. And letting
go means giving the future, a chance.
Of course everything is easier said
than done. So I will give you three steps on how to make ‘letting go’ easier for you.
First of all: control your mind. You need to stops all of those ‘what if’ , it
is NOT your fault that he walked out, and you’ve done your best. Stop blaming
yourself and just bring your focus back to the present and appreciate what is
already wonderful in your world. You need to transfer all of those love you
have, gather pieces by pieces of your heart, and use it to love yourself.
Forgive yourself enough to let go. That's second.
Third is that use this time to discover more about yourself, your passion, who you really are. Tell yourself that when 1 door closes, another opens. Imagine there are so many doors and you have keys to each of it. You, yes you, you are so blessed, so unique, you have so many potentials, so many talents, so many kind things to give back to the world.
After I broke up..
I tried my best in to do everything I couldn’t do during my first year. You know what happened next?
I discovered more about myself ! and I could proudly say, world has been great for me.
I got a lot of opportunities and many more to come. Other than toastmaster, I am also a Peer Mentor, also a member of Accounting Association Club, and also in charge of Forexperience event in the Investment and Networking Club (INC).
All of the doubts whether I am good enough or not has been diluted with all those facts that I am so much more capable than I think I am.
I also met a lot of people, I went to company visits in Singapore (UOB, Facebook, Shopee, Visa Mastercard) and I have been in a lot of fun! I went to Halloween Horror Night (HHN) at Universal Singapore Studio.
You see, my life is a story. Like legit drama.
My first boyfriend broke up with me because we had different belief, then I had never felt like I belong through out my entire high school life. I made a lot of fake friends haha. I was left out. I cried. A LOT.
It took me one day to turn my life around. I woke up and I made a promise to myself to let go. To let him go, to let the person that I thought could be my forever, go. I promised myself to move forward, and another day I woke up, God give me something more.
Opportunities to grow.
Paul Coelho once said,
if you are brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.
And if I can let go. So can you.
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